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Friday, November 12, 2004
An American Citizen's Page: Use Pain and Pleasure To Get Your Way
An American Citizen's Page: Use Pain and Pleasure To Get Your Way
"pain and pleasure, how to use them to move friend or foe in the direction you want them to go.
A very good principal to remember is this : People will only negotiate with you if they believe you can help them or hurt them. Other wise, they will ignore you, because you have nothing to offer and that's a fact. So, how is this useful? It helps you maximize your power in any given situation. If you are dealing with person or business, a public official or offering a service to the public or what ever, ask yourself "why should they deal with me?" "What can I offer to help them for helping me?", or "How can I hurt them if I need to?" In very few places do you actually have no power when you think about it!
Tips to help others: Praise, Compliments, Give nice assignments or chores, A pleasant scene, Give good feedback to their boss, stock holders etc, Do all your business with them, Avoid lawsuits, Help their family, Do small favors & on and on. You can help others in numerous ways!
Tips to hurt others: Ridicule or embarrass, Effect a reputation by revealing a secret, or plain tell lies, Give painful assignments and chores, Waste their time, Cost them money Attack their family or friends interest, Create a nasty scene, Take your business else where, Threats of lawsuits, violents or worse and on & on. You can hurt people & businesses in many many ways. Its amazing what one determined person can really do! Never make a threat you do not intend on carrying out! Put teeth in it.
So the next time you are dealing with a banker or waiter, a public official, your mechanic, a realtor, neighbor, landlord or what ever, remember to ask yourself these key questions, size up your power base & assert yourself. One more helpful principal to live by "I never forget a face & always repay my debts".
Lastly: Have fun, there is no battle worth your health or piece of mind!!"
"pain and pleasure, how to use them to move friend or foe in the direction you want them to go.
A very good principal to remember is this : People will only negotiate with you if they believe you can help them or hurt them. Other wise, they will ignore you, because you have nothing to offer and that's a fact. So, how is this useful? It helps you maximize your power in any given situation. If you are dealing with person or business, a public official or offering a service to the public or what ever, ask yourself "why should they deal with me?" "What can I offer to help them for helping me?", or "How can I hurt them if I need to?" In very few places do you actually have no power when you think about it!
Tips to help others: Praise, Compliments, Give nice assignments or chores, A pleasant scene, Give good feedback to their boss, stock holders etc, Do all your business with them, Avoid lawsuits, Help their family, Do small favors & on and on. You can help others in numerous ways!
Tips to hurt others: Ridicule or embarrass, Effect a reputation by revealing a secret, or plain tell lies, Give painful assignments and chores, Waste their time, Cost them money Attack their family or friends interest, Create a nasty scene, Take your business else where, Threats of lawsuits, violents or worse and on & on. You can hurt people & businesses in many many ways. Its amazing what one determined person can really do! Never make a threat you do not intend on carrying out! Put teeth in it.
So the next time you are dealing with a banker or waiter, a public official, your mechanic, a realtor, neighbor, landlord or what ever, remember to ask yourself these key questions, size up your power base & assert yourself. One more helpful principal to live by "I never forget a face & always repay my debts".
Lastly: Have fun, there is no battle worth your health or piece of mind!!"